Natasha respectively I do not need your judgmental comment on my observation ,you are beginning to sound like a Mother Superior looking after Sunday school class. We are all different and offer alternative solutions to a problem
Possibly I missed the fact that Fred wife was terminal ill and wish to stay home.Whilst that request may have doable and practical at the start of the illness, it's getting to be challengethat Fred is finding impossible to fulfill, and time for some family or friends to intervene
Fred is no spring chicken and needs to take care of his health.
In a ideal world we should have kids who would swoop in and take charge, sadly many have kids who will not do that or want to bring us back north..That becomes less practical solutions for USA citizens if you have not maintained your Medicare
So those of you who feel your are "family ", now is intervention time,, Forget the Ra Ra from the sidelines. PEACE AND BLESSINGS