Reverse culture shock - how happy are those who returned NOB?
Posted 11 July 2012 - 07:28 PM
Toward the end of next month, I'll be going to California (where I grew up) for a reunion with my brothers. I haven't lived there in decades. I imagine it will be interesting in a "reverse culture shock" kind of way.
Posted 13 July 2012 - 08:43 AM
I think the sad stories posted here are about more than the expat experience. I think it's about how we are aging now. We are the first generation of retirees who choose to re-create our lives anew in another country - in large numbers. There have always been a few, but here we are re-inventing retirement on a larger scale than ever before, because we have the opportunity to do so as never before. Part of that is re-defining how we do family as elders, how we need to let go of family and move on. It's a bitter-sweet process, but it's how we pay for the freedom to live as we choose at this stage if life.
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Posted 15 July 2012 - 11:59 AM
Posted 15 July 2012 - 12:26 PM
I had everything these cities in the article can offer in both Minneapolis and Phoenix, so there's definitely something else that draws us to move to Lakeside and it's the people and the community. The great weather and inexpensive COL are an extra bonus for me. Marquette, Michigan? Right....after shoveling snow for 30 years in Minnesota you couldn't pry me loose from here to get me up there to live in a $130,000 median house EVEN if the people walked on the sidewalk and said "good morning" to me! Except they'd mostly stay inside in their forced air heating or AC.
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Posted 15 July 2012 - 01:38 PM
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The only time I go for a long time is in early May. Once the rainy season starts for real, I come back to my second but real home.
Posted 21 January 2013 - 11:22 PM
Where on Lake Chapala did you live? We have been considering buying in Ajijic. As we were only visiting for a few weeks we found Ajijic to be more attractive than Chapala. But then again our hosts were inclined to show us 'their' Chapala which was very run down. What parts of Chapala are worthwhile to visit and perhaps invest in?
Personally, after almost 3 years at Lakeside, it was Paradise Lost for me --not found.
I moved to Mexico to be part of Mexico and it's culture. instead found the huge Ex-Pat community to be a repeat of life I left behind in California, picked up and encapsulated in the pueblos on Lake Chapala, with some additional annoyances thrown in.
In California, I had a Mexican gardener, occasional maid and great weather, as well as many Senior Citizen Centers with fabulous programs-- only real difference, was location, size, amenities and security.
What I did not find at lakeside were stores that were open after 5pm or restaurants after 8 pm of even a social life after 6pm.
More importantly peace of mind or security- After 3 Home Invasions and burglaries and a warning from Minesterio Publico Detectives to buy a gun- It was a No Brainer- Sell the House and Move, I chose to move to Guadalajara. where I already had Mexican friends.
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Posted 22 January 2013 - 09:57 PM
9 years living in Mexico. Moved to Guadalajara to learn Spanish. The first early visits NOB, every 6 months, were a huge culture shock. I spoke English with a Spanish accent and was irritated with how spoiled we are NOB. The last Christmas we spent up north, I cried when it was time to come back. Not that i didn't want to but I left some of my freedom behind. I go out on occasion alone but nothing like I ever did up north.
Shopping and so many improvements here over the past 9 years. We were commenting today how the city has kept up with it's beautification that took place during the PanAmerica games.
It's been 3 years since we have been back. Every morning I wake up and look down into Chapala and my breath is taken away...I comment, "Oh, it's such a beautiful day today! I'm so grateful to live here! I just love our home and life here."
After a while, you lose the Spanish accent while speaking English, and your brain doesn't freeze so much as you try to remember the English word. It helped a lot by typing in English on forums. Maybe adding virgin coconut oil to the diet helped too
A lot has changed in our hometown since we moved down. Crime is up as an early release program was put in place and guess where they are relocating? It's very sad but crime is global. As things change, we change along with it to make it work. We're not afraid of changes. Embrace solutions. We're home.
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